[ ID: A digital, flat color drawing of Pandora, an Espeon with a blue-green forehead gem and grey eyes, with a transparent background. She is shown from head to toe in a ¾ view towards the left, with a particularly devilish smile that shows her gums and sharp teeth. End ID ]
Burnout and my health is also kicking my ass, so I’m going to be putting all my blogs on hiatus until either my burnout eases up a bit or my health improves to the point that I can get myself to focus enough to draw again. Whichever comes first. More details under the cut if you’re curious, but that’s the gist of it.
Burnout and my health is also kicking my ass, so I’m going to be putting all my blogs on hiatus until either my burnout eases up a bit or my health improves to the point that I can get myself to focus enough to draw again. Whichever comes first. More details under the cut if you’re curious, but that’s the gist of it.
(I felt like drawing some random ask blog characters for a change. Just nice drawing some different characters. I suppose we can treat it as a fan art Friday.)
Willow: “In the same way a pokémon evolves with battle experience, others are able to evolve through experiencing strong emotions or feelings. It wouldn’t be a stretch, then, to say I simply evolved through life experience! And through that, my leaves mimicked the willow leaves that surrounded me at the time! Isn’t that neat?
I actually found some books and research papers in this library on the topic. If you’d like, I can look for them and we can share a read, hm? Of course, if research papers aren’t your thing, the bookshelves are open for you to peruse!”
🌺 clearly if there was a pollux, a castor is also Out There, Somewhere...
HM... but for a more serious hc: uxie may be something of a reluctant recluse? legendary status notwithstanding, the whole infamy for being able to wipe memories with a single glance instantly probably makes others wary to interact with him 🤔 ))
So like, originally I had a whole sub plot where Honey meets Pollux’s family so, Yes, He’s Out There, Somewhere
Yes actually! The ‘reluctant’ part is less true in recent times since (wiggles hands vaguely at plot), but at one point in time long ago he was much more liberal with the memory wiping out of distrust for mortals. Its something he had to work on with Several Generations of patrons, because it definitely gave him a bit of a bad rep for a while.
Charade: “Nah. I figured it was something like that. I wouldn’t have gone over to introduce myself if I thought you were creepy, you silly string bean.”
Blackjack: “Aha, I guess not, huh? W-well, it turns out we both had… similar experiences growing up as shiny Pokémon. It was validating to talk to someone who understood that.”
Charade: “I ended up staying in the village for a while so I could hang out with my new friend. We got to introduce Tricky and Ridley to each other, too! And then, well, we never left.”
Some of you may know about the PSA that circulated a few months ago regarding The-House-of-Hemingway’s relationship and unacceptable sexual interactions with someone who was a minor. Hemingway now goes by C-a-l-y-p-s-o. This post will discuss the details of the PSA, as well as this user’s concerning past and present behavior.
To the best of the ability of those responsible for this document, the username will continually be updated so that this person cannot interact with members of this community again without disclosing who they are, regardless if the interaction is safe-for-work or not.
The following post is intended to bring awareness to someone who is
Confirmed to be a groomer.
Attempting to convince members of the pokeask community that they have “changed” but is clearly trying to win favor with you.
A risk to the community, cannot be safely trusted, and needs to exit community spaces.
Disclaimers
Harassment of Calypso in any form is unacceptable behavior. The purpose of this post is to inform. This is not a call for hostile action beyond a block on every social media possible.
Please respect the victim’s boundaries and do not badger them for further details than what has been disclosed. While disagreement and discussion is OK, please keep your comments outside of tumblr and public discord servers.
If harassment occurs, the names of any individuals who dogpile, send death threats to, or doxx those involved with this situation will also be listed (with concrete evidence only) on this document.
TL;DR
Tumblr user @C-a-l-y-p-s-o, previously known as the mod behind the pokeask blog “house-of-hemingway,” is a confirmed groomer who has deleted their admission of guilt to save face.
Calypso has violated a boundary that is expected between a victim and an abuser by leveraging themselves into positions of authority (server moderators, event leaders, etc.)
Calypso has broken promises made to their peers over the course of their internet presence, changing names and website profiles/identities in order to escape the responsibility for their actions.
Calypso is attempting to fall back into good graces by sending copy-pasted positivity asks on mundays to sweep their notoriety under the rug.
This document will contain proof of the above in exhaustive detail under the “readmore”, or if you are viewing this in the public google document form, it will be under the resources.
We are using this as an opportunity to take a firm stance against grooming in the community, and to express our support for survivors. Our goal is to address the circumstances under which it happens with preventive guidelines and trauma-informed resources.
Resources & Education
What does grooming look like? A quick guide written by survivors of abuse within the Pokeask community:
The adult may not approach you with the intention of grooming you.
The objective of grooming is for an adult to turn their bond with a minor into a transactional relationship; circumstances in which the minor is providing something for them— whether that be emotional support or sexual gratification— and normalizes breaking boundaries to do so.
Though they may not realize they are blurring or overstepping your boundaries, the effect is still the same; they are desensitizing you to unfair and inappropriate treatment.
Many adults deal with mental illness, go through hard times, and struggle with loneliness. If you’re acquaintances or friends, you naturally might want to support them, “fix” their problems, or do them favors because they’ve been nice to you or because they’re not being malicious.
But ultimately, prioritizing their wellbeing compromises your own, well-meaning or not. That is what an imbalanced power dynamic looks like, and it is up to the adult to realize this, acknowledge it, and seek out other outlets, resources, people, and help available to them.
A responsible adult does not take advantage of your availability when given the opportunity to do so over other appropriate choices, no matter what.
The adult may expect you to be available at all times.
Guilt-tripping when you do not respond to their messages, spamming your DMs, or demanding that you spend most of your online time with them.
Making time for them might mean you end up spending less time with your friends and become distant from others in your social circle.
A red flag to look for is if they call you their “best / closest friend” over other adult relationships in their life.
The adult may put the burden of their mental health or well-being on you.
This can include constant venting / oversharing, validation seeking, or coming to you when they are in a mental health crisis. This can happen in private dms or in public servers.
Remember, no one individual is responsible for managing a loved one’s mental health, and it is not OK to expect a teenager to intervene when someone is threatening suicide or self-harm. That is for a trained professional to handle.
The adult may invite you into unmoderated spaces with other adults.
They might have “lighthearted” conversations with you or in front of you about sexual content, flirt with you, share explicit images / memes where you can see them, ask to role-play erotic scenarios with your ocs, or draw NSFW / suggestive art of your ocs / sona.
Red flags to look for are adults telling you that you are mature for your age, asking you to keep their interactions with you a secret, or interacting inappropriately with you in voice call so that there is no chat log of what they’ve said.
You do not owe your followers or fans your attention if you feel uncomfortable.
A friendship between two artists or between you and a fan of your work should not involve any pressure to reciprocate gift art, respond to asks, or role-play.
If someone crosses your boundaries based on a perceived parasocial relationship with you, or makes you feel guilty for not interacting with them, you are in your full right to block them.
If you suspect an ask is a covert fetish, such as asking you to draw an overly specific subject or situation, report them to an adult in the community.
Similarly, if someone you are a fan of is crossing your boundaries, take a step back to evaluate whether you would be OK with it if they were not someone you admire.
Just because someone is popular, skilled at art, widely respected, or well-liked does not give them the right to treat you in the ways listed above.
Listen to your gut; if you feel uncomfortable or unsafe, but are doubting your feelings because you look up to the person you’re interacting with, take a step back and tell someone you trust. No friendship is worth being treated this way.
If you suspect you were groomed in the past, or are wondering if a relationship you have with an adult is inappropriate, please look through the information linked in this section. Hotlines, counseling and self-help resources for survivors are listed here as well.
Coming forward about abuse can be re-traumatizing and difficult, but it can also be healing and liberating— It allows for a survivor to be in charge of their narrative and to lead the conversation surrounding their trauma.
Sometimes, it takes years to recognize trauma or past abuse, let alone to be ready to publicly talk about it. It is validating to finally be able to say, “This happened to me. I survived it. I deserved better.” to the world.
Trauma follows us for a long time. No matter how much time has passed, a victim has the right to disclose their abuse and hold their abuser accountable. It is our responsibility to listen. https://metoomvmt.org/
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