write characters who are aromantic and/or asexual

write characters who are aroace

write characters who are aroallo

write characters who are alloace

write characters who want absolutely nothing to do with sex or romance (without treating it like a character flaw, or else you get the One Billion Hammer Attack)

write characters who are completely neutral on the subject of sex or romance

write characters who like sex or romance but don’t experience attraction to their partners (without treating it like a character flaw. or else One Billion Hammers.)

write characters who fall into the “gray” parts of the aro and/or ace spectrum, they deserve recognition too

and none of that “ohhhhh they meet The One and they’re no longer aro/ace, they’re Cured 😊” - or you get the hammers 🔨🔨🔨🔨🔨🔨🔨🔨🔨🔨🔨🔨🔨🔨🔨🔨🔨

That one Hannibal scene cuz a moot on TWT shared it and now it lives in my head rent free

I kinda wish that "oh they don't know they are dating yet lol" was used less as a joke because while it can be funny to think about people not recognizing their obvious feelings it also shows a major issue with amatonormativity and believing certain ways people interact with each other can only be read 1 way. It shoves relationships into a box and assumes the people in their own relationship don't know any better and so can't possibly label it correctly.

"they say they are friends but obviously they just don't know they're dating yet!" Assumes that 1. Friendship is less than romance. 2. That the way these people act with each other has to be romantic and any other interpretation is wrong including the people who are interacting own interpretations of their relationship. 3. Assumes you, a third party observing the relationship you are not part of, know more and better than the people in the relationship and thus have authority to put a label on said relationship.

Do you see the problem here? Do you understand how fucked up it is to constantly be told your relationship is something it's not. Do you understand how rude it is to undermine people's own ability to properly label their own relationships. It does not matter if YOU think they are dating. If they say they are friends then they are F R I E N D S.

The thing Abt relationships is that all parties in the relationship have to agree with what it is. If one says they are dating and the other says they are not, then they are not dating and they will never be until both agree on that face. Simple as that.

everyone look up the aspec turtle metaphor right now

I’ve just discovered it and it’s fabulous

it’s here if you need

Say it with me, everyone.

ARO DOES NOT EQUAL ACE.

ACE DOES NOT EQUAL ARO.

SOMETIMES PEOPLE ARE BOTH. THAT DOES NOT MEAN THEY ARE THE SAME.

AROMANTIC AND ASEXUAL ARE DIFFERENT, AND SHOULD BE RESPECTED AS SUCH.

I love them so bad. Girlfriends in every universe

Flashback to that one moment where it felt like I'd found an aroace cheatcode on life somehow

Just gonna randomly happy-rant here for a second.

For some reason things have been doing amazingly in the past 10 days despite all my fears.

I told my religious aunt, the one family member I was most afraid of telling, about my QPP and I being a thing, and though I was expecting her to yell at me and cut ties with me after that, she took it well.

Then this post which I thought I was gonna be heavily torches-and-pitchforked for got positive and supportive reactions, with only one person (as far I know at least) arguing against it on one of my socials, and even then, very respectfully so with the right amount of open-mindedness.

And then to top things off, that Kickstarter campaign, that I hesitated to start for months because I didn't figure people would care about stories of an asexual who's not down for sex OR romance enough to invest money in it, got fully funded in a flash.

Things like these hammer in that this isn't the world I grew up in when I was a teen and a twentysomething. It's gone much further than I thought I'd see in my lifetime and I couldn't be more grateful for it.

Get this message onto everyone’s dash rn

all aspec identities- even the ones you don't like (someone likes it).

even the ones you think are nonsensical (it makes sense to someone).

even the ones you think no one will ever use (it was made for someone).

even if you think the only people using it are freaks/degenerates/whatever (nobody is).

never understand why people become exclusionists when instead we could all be laughing together. having fun. dancing and playing and eating and thriving!!

Aspecs. Acespecs. Arospecs. Aplspecs. Reblog if you agree.

"but aces and aros can be in relationships"

Yes, I know that, but do YOU know that aces and aros in relationships are still aces and aros? Do you internalize that? Are you aware that we don't just suddenly turn straight, or gay or anything else?

Yes, even demis

Are you aware that a sex repulsed asexual will still be sex repulsed even in a relationship, and so, might never fuck you?

Are you aware that a romance repulsed aro will still be romance repulsed even in a seemingly normative relationship and might not like doing typical romantic gestures and activities?

Are you aware that a sex neutral or positive asexual might not actually be sexually attracted to you at all even if they do fuck you?

Are you aware that a romance neutral or positive aro might not actually be romantically into you even if they are comfortable with typical romantic gestures?

Are you aware that our identities are just as permanent as yours?

i have a burning hatred for relationship hierarchies.

Why is it offensive to want to just be friends? Why is it expected for romantic partners to always take prioritization over friends? Why is it rude to tell someone you aren't friends, just chill with each other? Why are queerplatonic relationships seen as a step down from romantic relationships? Why is it bad to not want to make step ups in romantic relationships?

these labels have different meanings and levels importance to everyone, therefore they have no meaning or importance.

in my world, there are two places you can stand. next to me or the fuck away.