DNI / BYF

this my (cnaaawd's) extended 'do not interact' (DNI) + 'before you interact' (BYF) list! plus a little notes section for anyone awry about me :p

i don't actually use this actively (i prefer blocking creeps before we ever interact at all rather than directing them to a list they probably wont read) buuttt this is a useful thing to have so whoever reading can decide how they want to interact :p 

for the DNI part its hard limits (eg i will block you if i see you) but the BYF part is, if you hold differing opinions i don't really care and i don't agree and you can block me if you so wish but otherwise im okay (in most scenarios) to just let things be lol

DO NOT INTERACT IF:

• you are racist, colourist, antisemitic, islamophobic, etc, in any way 
  • this includes being against the black lives matter movement and/or supporting the reactionary movement all lives matter
• you are transphobic or homophobic in any way
  • this includes being strongly against xenogenders and/or neopronouns. why do you care
  • this includes considering yourself a hardcore transmed/truscum
• you are ableist in any way
  • this includes thinking disabled people shouldn't have children/should be euthanised if they're too disabled (thats eugenics)
  • this included endogenic 'systems' -- claiming to have the symptoms of a seriously life-changing disorder, without being disordered. STOP
  • you believe that narcissistic abuse is an actual thing, and not just armchair diagnosing abusers with a stigmatised disorder to feel more special about their trauma
• you consider yourself far-right/right-wing, economically/socially conservative, pro-life/pro-birth, or otherwise a traditionalist
• you are a pedophile (includes MAP, GAK/KAG), a zoophile (includes zeta, 'zoosadist'), a necrophile, or self-identify as an AAM (adult-attracted minor. you deserve help but frankly you trigger me too much for me to help at all)
  • this includes those of you that exclusively consume fictional/drawn content of your paraphilia
  • this does not include all paraphilias; objectophilia, fictophilia, coprophilia, consensual somnophilia, or other nonharmful paraphilias
• you are proship, or proship-accepting on any capacity including being neutral towards shipcourse in the stance you're not against proshippers sexualising the things they do
  • this includes people who identify as loli/shota-cons
  • this includes nsfw babyfurs
  • this includes anyone who participates in RPF (real people fiction) such as poppytwt or whatever
  • this does not include people who enjoy dark fiction and recognise the nuances

BEFORE YOU FOLLOW,:

• id prefer it if nobody 15-or-under contacted me with the purpose of being friends -- trades and toyhouse stuff is fine but im not the most comfortable being friends!
• im okay with edtwt/shtwt'rs interacting, since i know far too well how much more desolate suffering without any sense of a community can be, but if you're fatphobic or use thinspo, or you encourage others to not recover and get worse, frankly i hope you die of your condition lmao
• If you are a system and exclusively call yourself 'plural' I will be suspicious of you and probably block. If you are a system and log the alters of your system on Toyhouse next to your OCs I will block -- this is an OC storage site, and you're putting alters here, the things ableist's believe are just characters we make up? Fuck off bro
• if you're anti-selfship, you're not gonna like my gfsona lmao
  • on this note, i am against proship selfshippers, but if you're a minor and make an adult selfshipsona for an adult f/o, im fine with that
• if you against age regression or pet regression in any capacity (eg, supporting agere up until they call their partners/cg's by parental terms) i will think you suck
• if you are a part of the IRL community/experience identity delusions and aren't pro-recovery, pro-reality checks, and totally pro-medicalisation i will most likely not like you. this is poorly worded but if you are a part of that community you'll know
• if you're a sfw babyfur hmmm i don't like the babyfur community if not purely because of the nsfw connotations and would prefer if someone could clue me in on another term that sfw agere furries use but otherwise... interact at your own precaution
• if you really hate kinks/fetishes we probably wont be the best match, but its really up to you. 
• this is such a stereotypical one but dsmp fans are generally so fucking annoying with so few exceptions so. just stay away 

NOTES ON ME: 

• i don't call myself an antishipper despite being against proship and would prefer you not call me one either. im against people who finger themselves to horrific things like children or animals being abused - in fiction or otherwise ¯\_("3)_/¯ 
  • i love dark fiction for the disturbing genre of fiction it is. i have no respect for people who look at it and only see taboo porn (eg, proshippers) 
• self harm is very prevalent in a lot of my characters and is important to me, i will not avoid drawing scars and if you do avoid drawing them after agreeing to drawing a scarred character, ill most likely block you later on
  • if you accuse me of romanticising or fetishising self harm, as someone literally covered head to toe in scars having to live with this body until it croaks, go fuck yourself lmao im going to find joy in these things that kept me alive and sane through the bad times until i no longer find joy at all! 
• im very interested in fetishism (in a mostly nonsexual way) and my characters will more than likely be reflected in this! 
• i love debate!! if you start a debate and i don't clock it as you being a dick i will most likely debate back :)