Bo

Personality:

Appreciative / Supportive / Hasty / Forgiving / Self-Destructive / Attentive / Hypocritical / Insecure

It wouldn’t be unusual for you to see Bo outside of the house. In fact, he hates being inside most of the time. Bo prides himself to take any opportunity he can get to be a big part of his community. From volunteering at the local farms to attending clan festivals, he’s quite the active social butterfly.

Bo has a certain knack of winning over others with his sweet words and his genuine smile. He’s easily a good wingman and hype-man. He’ll talk you up about any of your talents and traits and will know how to make you feel comfortable and proud about yourself. His mindset is to always ensure that everyone else is having an enjoyable time, no matter what. 

Folks like to keep Bo around as he provides valuable advice and insights to help others with their issues. As he is part of the Jian Clan, he holds a significant amount of wisdom in love, fate, and bonds.  Much to his chagrin, a commonly brought up topic is the relationship between child and parent, thanks to his Jian Shili (鹣 视力) [ o sum up, when he puts his mind to it, he sees neon red lines between two people. If the lines are thin, the bonds are weak. The thicker the lines, the stronger their bond.]. Though that specific bond is commonly asked about, Bo is able to address other various kinds of relationships. 

Bo tries to live by the code of “Listen to understand, not to reply.” He’ll do his best to get the context of the other’s situation to formulate the best answer he can think of. He understands that people may come to him only when they need help, but he’s content knowing he’s doing whatever he can to be as supportive as he can be.

Despite his kindness, he has a hard time being candid. If he knows that someone is in a bind and his words can’t help, he’ll beat around the bush a lot. To add to this, he’ll even hastily tell lies and hope it’ll work out. To Bo, these moments bring up a level of internal conflict that lead him to be rash and profess a lie. In his mind, he’d rather get away with a lie than admit he’ll be useless. Some definitely have witnessed this act and have even had to deal with the negative repercussions, leading them to betray any level of trust in Bo. When confronted with, Bo caves in to guilt and will persistently apologize, to the point of annoyance for some. 

However, because of this, Bo knows that others tend to make mistakes and he’s easily forgiving of them. If any of his peers ever did something negative to him, he doesn’t take long to sympathize and identify with him. Bo’s said “sorry” many times to know when someone else is being sincere, and one genuine apology is all Bo needs to be accepting. He talks them through things in an inquisitive and thoughtful manner, in order to ensure that they don’t make such a mistake again. He genuinely wants to see you better yourself and will try to help you along the way.

Unfortunately, Bo doesn’t go to others at all. Despite his yearn to help others, he becomes stubborn and obstinate on the idea of asking others for help. He naturally agrees and thanks people when they say they will be there for him in his times of need, but he never bothers to go to them. In his mind, his problems are miniscule to others, therefore it’d be a waste of time on their end. He’s not one to take his own advice and that tends to become one of his worst detriments, as he indulges in the notion that he can solely handle his own issues, only to be further troubled. If Bo wants to continue to grow to become the helpful person he wants, he’s got to learn how to listen to himself.