this happened in september. this was resolved the exact day / night it happened.  i suspect that they wanted to bring it up and stir a pot of drama (now) for unknown reasons aside from perhaps they’re upset i recently deleted them off of discord (??) because we no longer spoke and because frankly, the way they jumped to so many things made me uncomfortable. neither of us had continued to have each other blocked until they recently decided to bring up old shit. again; this happened in september and was resolved quite literally the day / night it happened, i am entirely unsure as of why or what caused it to suddenly spring up again. as for "a friend reminding them" of me, i'm unsure about that. i don't interact with others often on here, and even then, most if not all of my interactions, despite being sparse, are pleasant. recently there has not been a single issue with any other user unless they're someone i've blocked prior to even interacting with them due to reasons pertaining to my dni or my overall discomfort with some users. so either their "friend" mentioned something totally unrelated and not even negative and jasper decided to run away with that and suddenly remembered some sort of "grudge", or perhaps by chance the "friend" is someone whom i've had blocked and they simply found out and mentioned it and jasper decided to, out of spite, run with this. we were friends on discord afterwards. we talked on other occasions afterwards. 

now, why the tidbit about "by the way this site has a lot of minors on it" bothers me a lot is because i not only have had shit experiences with adults when i was younger and a minor, but also have trauma related to it. not only that (though that may not necessarily count as a "point" to others), including this very strewn detail is crucial in his argument to the implication of me being a "creep" or intending things in far more negative context. when someone like jasper says something like this, it has very heavy implications behind it and can be devastating to the actual context of the situation.
less relevant, but i actually hate interacting with minors. not just because of some negative behavior from some minors (not all minors are negative), but because it makes me uncomfortable. i am a young adult, have dealt with trauma regarding specific subjects in the past, and also like to try and be responsible. i almost always check age upon meeting someone. my toyhouse account says i am 18+ (both on my warning and on my profile), and on my warning it even says i don't like interacting with people under 16. yeah, ages between 16 and 18 are still minors, but they're far more.. "tolerable", for a lack of better words for what i mean. i don't want to lock everyone off of my content, especially if someone needs to contact me. i tag things appropriately in terms of my toyhouse content and images, i refuse to sell / trade things with anything near nsfw to users under 18, and have also been recently (before this) debating moving my age range up to 18+ only and locking my toyhouse account to mature. though yes, i am aware that wouldn't keep dishonest minors out.

what he showed as "nsfw" was one or two (there were two total made in the chat) quite vague jokes (that even had a tone indicator) that were not only not even explicit nsfw but can also have different variations of descriptions behind them.
not once did jasper express discomfort.
no, not everyone should have to express discomfort. i am aware of this.
but considering these are not only not explicit nsfw jokes and don't even include actual context, it should be pretty clear that it's something that most wouldn't think to ask about comfort levels with.
i always ask about someone's comfort or discomfort and am very mindful and weary of the idea of discomfort that someone may have with actual nsfw.

as for my situation;
i've always been pretty open and honest about my situation but i do not use it to guilt-trip someone, certainly not intentionally. in fact, i worry often about seeming like i'm guilt tripping someone— i worry about it often, especially with friends, who thankfully are understanding.
in terms of what was said in those screenshots he pushed— in my mind, i was explaining the fee, which indeed was in my tos on toyhouse at the time. and on the adopt itself, the ab (that jasper wanted to do) even had a little note mentioning that abs help support me. he knew what he was there for.
when jasper expressed being unable to do the fee, i offered a different option (a less expensive fee) because not only did i not want to completely disregard my tos, but i wanted to be understanding and could relate to him. when he declined this one as well, i told him it was okay and that he didn't have to do the hold fee.
if you personally want to consider a fee in my tos and being open and saying "hey it'd really help if possible, but if not it's fine, here's why it'd help (in a short few bits)"as guilt-tripping, i am unsure as of what to tell you on that front.

the screenshots including so much more detail were not shared by jasper. that being said, jasper, not sharing all of the screenshots is so honestly gross and manipulative, and blatantly just sad to see how bored you are with your own life to take something so out of context and make a bigger "deal" out of something that was resolved months ago. you are a liar. i would not recommend you as a friend, let alone a client, to anyone. you are, unfortunately, far too much trouble for what you're worth.
the reason i'm not doing sharing the unreleased screenshots is not only because i don't have your permission, but also because (unfortunately, i can admit my downfall here) i hate having my discord untidy and i delete chats off of my side bar even if we're still friends- my side bar contains a small handful of my closest friends and people i talk to routinely, with the exception of one or two people occasionally being there to remind me of something (ie if i owe something or if they owe me something). when i deleted you off of my friends list jasper, you were not in my side bar on the side. i did not block you. you were never placed on my blacklist. (both of these should show that we were not on negative terms) when i deleted you, i was deleting someone that there was no need to block, deleting someone i simply didn't talk to anymore. i have no access to your user anymore despite attempting to search my hardest to shed light on all of this to the people who are at least important to me, and therefore i cannot access the actual conversation.
you are manipulative and dishonest, jasper. you are holding a grudge over something that was so incredibly small, so unrelated to anything happening currently, and pushing your own narrative just to attempt getting this grudge off your chest. this was resolved the day / night it happened. what is the need to bring it up again aside from attention and feeling validation for something that you've twisted? are you truly just this whiny and mad that i've deleted you and no longer wanted to be friends with you, and that i'm doing better without you? disgusting.

to those who are expecting me / wanting me to miraculously arrive on jasper's "psa" and respond, i can't. being blocked without even knowing it let alone waking up to the "psa" and friends showing it to me made it pretty difficult to attempt to put any light on the situation, let alone apologize for something that i had not only took up and apologized for before when it happened for the misunderstanding, but to apologize for something that was not accurately depicted on his "psa".
while i'd love to show up and post this there instead, i can't. jasper has left no room for that. as well as for those who again, are expecting / wanting an apology, this "psa" was only brought to my attention this morning the moment i woke up. and to those who believed it immediately, i truly hope you can move on and understand that people, even with a small handful of screenshots that they can can count on one to two sets of fingers, can entirely be dishonest and still push their one-sided fantasy of how things happened.
to those who believed me and helped me through the issue of anxiety this has caused from waking up to and reading the blatant shitshow of a "psa", thank you. i appreciate you, and i love you very much.
and to jasper— grow up. be honest with yourself, or at least be honest to others, you can lie to yourself all you want, but don't lie to others.

and for any possible details;
i am mostly open about this with friends / close people in my life. but i have struggled with mental issues for quite some time and they have proceeded to get worse. there have been instances where i made a mistake, however there were also a lot more instances where things i said or mentioned were taken the wrong way. it happens often. i struggle to communicate through text, especially in a personal setting. things happen. misunderstandings happen (especially considering jasper, in our past resolution, even agreed and admitted that yes, there was a misunderstanding / must have been a misunderstanding), but this was unnecessary and honestly doesn't even belong as a "psa" in my opinion as it's not only a personal grudge / issue, but genuinely is so out of context and has nothing to do with anything going on at the moment.
from emotional and social misunderstandings as well as behavioral misunderstandings, i can admit i struggle a lot with that. but that was talked about in our resolution in september. i made it clear it was a misunderstanding, and he also agreed + accepted + admitted this / that there must have been one.
i work hard to make it clear that it's easy for misunderstandings to happen with me. it's something that i not only fear on a daily basis with even trusted friends, but something that has bitten me in the ass before for all the wrong reasons. i use tone indicators. i apologize profusely. i check in on people to make sure they're not mad or haven't gotten a bad vibe. i check for misunderstandings. i not only take precaution (especially in nsfw topics) but am weary and mindful and walk on eggshells all the time. what i've been painted as is careless, gross, and possibly even self-centered.