Honestly, it's hard when you don't really know how to deal with it or don't know how to point out your more autistic traits. It's not as big of a hassle for me nowadays, but it's been a few years of me working to embrace my autism rather than fight it.
It takes time and reading and whatnot, but yeah, it was hard. :0
Mhm! I've been reading some books on it and trying to figure it all out.
I guess it's always kind of been obvious; back in middle school I was best friends with an autistic kid and we had many similarities that even I had picked up on.
Not something I really wanted to think about myself at the time though.
Online spaces (from a distance, in my case) also tend to help! I'd recommend Ask an Autistic, too, they have some good videos as an autistic person on the subject.
And yeah, autistic people tend to gravitate towards each other. Granted, I didn't have many friends offline, since a lot of people around me were neurotypical, but online spaces really helped me to get cozy with it.
Don't fault yourself for the times when it feels like an inconvenience, okay? Because sometimes it is! And it's okay to acknowledge it as such. Even if you never get used to it, even if you do get used to it. ouob
Yeah, I've never had many friends unless they were online ones. The most amount of offline friends I've had is like 10, and that was back in elementary, where your quirks were your coolness, and every kid was "popular". I do miss those days... It really is quite a shock to start into middle school and suddenly the things other kids decided made you the "class clown" and a "fun friend" were suddenly the things that got you bullied. In elementary school everyone knew me for being hyper and funny, and everyone knew me in middle school because I was "annoying" and "strange".
Oh, don't worry about being off-track! I'm just glad you can find some use from my experiences, haha.
I was homeschooled, so while I didn't experience getting bullied by classmates, my siblings were really no better, and in the places I did go to try and "get a social life", there wasn't much I could do outside of those things and so I was very low priority (ah, church, i don't miss thee). Online friends and spaces were really the only places I could have friends, actual friends.
But yeah! It's no biggie, I'm always open to chat and give advice on how to cope with certain things. Autism's been a real beastie to deal with, but naming it is definitely a big step in working with it.
swirltraveler
Autism is hard.
;-;
(I have Asperger's, was diagnosed like a year ago)
3 years, 19 days ago
A year ago? Geez...
Honestly, it's hard when you don't really know how to deal with it or don't know how to point out your more autistic traits. It's not as big of a hassle for me nowadays, but it's been a few years of me working to embrace my autism rather than fight it.
It takes time and reading and whatnot, but yeah, it was hard. :0
3 years, 19 days ago
Mhm! I've been reading some books on it and trying to figure it all out.
I guess it's always kind of been obvious; back in middle school I was best friends with an autistic kid and we had many similarities that even I had picked up on.
Not something I really wanted to think about myself at the time though.
I suppose one day I'll get used to it.
3 years, 19 days ago
Online spaces (from a distance, in my case) also tend to help! I'd recommend Ask an Autistic, too, they have some good videos as an autistic person on the subject.
And yeah, autistic people tend to gravitate towards each other. Granted, I didn't have many friends offline, since a lot of people around me were neurotypical, but online spaces really helped me to get cozy with it.
Don't fault yourself for the times when it feels like an inconvenience, okay? Because sometimes it is! And it's okay to acknowledge it as such. Even if you never get used to it, even if you do get used to it. ouob
3 years, 19 days ago
Oh, thanks!!
Yeah, I've never had many friends unless they were online ones. The most amount of offline friends I've had is like 10, and that was back in elementary, where your quirks were your coolness, and every kid was "popular". I do miss those days... It really is quite a shock to start into middle school and suddenly the things other kids decided made you the "class clown" and a "fun friend" were suddenly the things that got you bullied. In elementary school everyone knew me for being hyper and funny, and everyone knew me in middle school because I was "annoying" and "strange".
Anyways, I'm getting off track here.
Thanks for the resource and your input! :3
3 years, 19 days ago
Oh, don't worry about being off-track! I'm just glad you can find some use from my experiences, haha.
I was homeschooled, so while I didn't experience getting bullied by classmates, my siblings were really no better, and in the places I did go to try and "get a social life", there wasn't much I could do outside of those things and so I was very low priority (ah, church, i don't miss thee). Online friends and spaces were really the only places I could have friends, actual friends.
But yeah! It's no biggie, I'm always open to chat and give advice on how to cope with certain things. Autism's been a real beastie to deal with, but naming it is definitely a big step in working with it.
3 years, 19 days ago