hello, i am finally setting up a bio for my profile. what are some common byi / dni criteria i should use for it? i have a basic idea of the more personal stuff, but otherwise i'm a little stumped.
honestly it’s really up to you on what you decide to put there (aka who you prefer to interact with)
most people on this site (or the forums at least) avoid DNIs since most basic dni criteria are already against th rules or are considered “silly” to some, but really, it’s just your personal preference
Kaiju_K9 that is true, but despite said rules i've still seen... certain people... with certain beliefs around the site, ones that i'm not entirely sure th stands against or with. so i want to cover all bases so it keeps those people out of my profile - especially since i'm trying to have th be my "main" site instead of tumblr or twitter.
i just don't know where to start with it. i know my own personal stuff, but that's not really a "start", is it?
here’s toyhouse’s conduct rules, most of the time you can report them (with proper links to what they’re doing) but it can be a hit or miss depending if and when admin sees them
I don’t really want to get too heavy into the dni subject since it can tend to stir up some people, but generally most of the stuff you do see on byi/dni is related to whom you (personally) do or don’t want to interact with
it really differs from person to person, it’s mostly just whatever and whoever you’re comfortable with imo
(it won’t prevent all people who fall into your dni from interacting with you of course (since some don’t know/understand they fall into that category) and some may intentionally break it because it’s a sort of target on you on what you’re uncomfortable with, there’s no real good advice I can recommend for a dni)
not here to debate or stop you from making one, just stating from what I’ve seen here ^^
as for a byi, I generally put info that I would want to know if someone interacted/followed me, like if I respond to all messages or certain ones, what sort of content I post, how I communicate (ie tone tags), etc.
My advice is just to politely ask people to interact respectfully with your content, most of the things people put in their dni lists are already against the rules and only attract trolls
fluffypettis yeah i understand that thought process and i am not opposed to using the block function but i would rather tell people straight up i don't want them near me rather than have someone innocently comment somewhere on my profile because i didn't. i don't have thin skin so i don't mind taking harassment for having a dni considering i don't have an issue with most things and i can just block them if i get annoyed. i just don't want to interact with like, two fandoms and supporters of certain conflicts, i don't plan on making a trigger list public to the internet. though those are good byi i will be keeping those in mind
tbh you shouldn’t be crafting your dni to look good for other people on the site since a lot of the time that’s what dnis are used for; if you really wanna put one the best idea is to just put your own criteria for yourself
in general toyhousers like to make their dni criteria “basic dni criteria” (which you could find sources online for and stuff; plus it depends on the source you find); even with the “basic dni criteria” on you you’re not gonna be able to please everyone on the site since not everyone on the site is even gonna abide by them (yes, even if it directly violates rule 1.1 on toyhouse)
though in my personal experience and from what i’ve seen, most dnis tend to not work to fending off certain people you don’t want interacting (especially if it’s outside of “dni if you’re under/over certain age, or “dni if you have this type of content because it’s a trigger/harmful to me”), but rather it serves as a list of “here’s what bothers me”, and besides, no homophobe or transphobe or bigot or creep is gonna look at a basic dni criteria and go like “oh no i fall under this! shiver me timbers! i better go the other way”; to get rid of people you really just don’t want to interact with for some reason the block button is your best friend as mentioned earlier
and if you’re wondering about me, i don’t have a dni really, other than just a statement that i do not want to interact in ways more than forums or art trades with someone who is 13 (or under)
for a byi list, again the purpose is to put anything you want other users to know about you that may impact their interactions with you or your interactions with them; this is often stuff like “i have these conditions which make me interact differently/forget stuff” or “i’m an adult; please keep that in mind” or whatnot
and if you’re wondering about me, i do kinda have a hefty byi list personally; though you do what you feel is right for you
apodoforcas my dni to me is more like a warning to other people. i don't necc. care about it working, more about it getting a point across that i don't want to interact w/ this or that. it's a boundary, and if it's crossed, i have the ability to block people. i understand what y'all are trying to say but i think you're misreading the reason i want one lol
well regardless of whether dnis “work or not”, my point still stands; whatever criteria you put in your dni should go off of your beliefs and what you are uncomfortable with if someone were to interact with; you can put whatever you want; again you can look up basic dni criteria for inspiration but you can put whatever you want as long as it follows rule 1.1
here is a basic dni criteria thing others commonly use as the basis for their dnis, and something you could probably use for ideas as long as you look at the criteria and go like “yeah i don’t want this thing mentioned on this list to interact with me”; if you don’t want homophobes/transphobes/other bigots interacting with you, then that’s something you could put on your list
hopefully this makes more sense to what your goal is?
you can put anything you want in your DNI, but be aware that they don't work- ever. They're more likely to attract trolls than to ever keep someone away, and a lot of people don't read them anyway /laughing
You're better off just blocking people who make you feel unsafe or who you don't want to see.
Seteth i mean no offense. if you were a racist prick would you really last on the site that long? none of this is rly the point of it and it's not rly helpful to me at all . i'm including it bc i feel it's appropriate for myself. it's got nothing to do w the stuff that is... already against the rules here. nor am i doing it to be "trendy"...? nor is it a "trigger" thing like i said earlier? in any case not helpful to me at all, i asked for a baseline for what i wanted to do, not the same 3 points that don't mean anything to me to be repeated despite my reasoning being explained pretty clearly
Idk about anything specific but I've seen some DNIs mention that folks who are in a particular fandom not interact with them or perhaps folk with typing quirks (replacing z's with s's or dollar signs etc) or folks who consider themselves proship/anti! Also have seen adults ask for mainly NSFW/mature accounts interact with them :3 I know you said you got all the basics so that's just a few I usually see!
Edit: Another one I just thought of that is actually more common but folks will put that they don't want AI "artists" to interact with them!
Vossed those are actually pretty good ones. i'm dyslexic so i cannot read heavy typing quirks (i don't mind quirks at all, it's mostly just the very very heavy stuff i can't read), and that last one i completely forgot abt so i'll add those as well