adam
cobiphobic
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- 3 years, 2 months ago
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- cobiphobic
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Profile
brief description
- creative
- protective
- clumsy
- sensitive
- petty
- impatient
i was breathless upon every mountain,
just to look for your light.
Adam is a visual artist but they left their dreams of making a living off of their art when they entered their 20s. After his mother died, he went through a really rough depressive episode in which he stopped doing anything that he used to like - most of his talents and wants were nurtured by his mother and at some point, it was too rough to remember her. He started producing art again after entering a very emotionally taxing relationship, art becoming an outlet to pour out their emotions in private.
As far as their job goes, he stayed in customer service jobs for most of his 20s. After meeting Kiki she helped him find a job as a part-time art techer (he's great at it, too bad he's not going to have children) and he keeps a second job at a small coffee shop.
- hiking
- cooking
- quality time
- silence
- reading
- hot weather
mother
it's strange to remember a mother whose face you've forgotten.
there's not a single day i don't think about her - she shaped every fiber of my being. i see her when i look in the mirror. i don't always understand when her friends tell me that we look very similar, but if i let my face rest in my own presence i can see bits of her in my features. when i cook for my loved ones, her hands guide my own to get their meals juuuust right. sometimes i can see her shape in the shadows of a home she never lived in.
te amo, luisa. mientras vivo te recuerdo.
hemos jurado amarnos hasta la muerte
y si los muertos aman,
después de muertos amarnos más
bio
Childhood
Adam was the product of an affair between his mom and his dad, who was married at the time she got pregnant. After Adam was born, Luisa returned to her home country (Ecuador) and they lived there for the first 5 years of his life. They moved to the U.S. because Luisa wanted to help her sister and she wanted a better life for Adam.
He didn't know a lot of English so he had a hard time adjusting to his new environment. His then-teacher asked one of her coworkers to help Adam adjust, since she was hispanic and very patient with kids like him. She really helped him and in just two years he was already speaking perfect English.
Other people who were very important in getting him used to living in another country were his dad (Carlos) and his brother (John), both with a mexican line of ascent, but born and raised in the U.S.
When he was 10, he met Analía, a girl his age who had a hard time fitting in too. Since both of them knew Spanish, they became best friends even with their almost opposite personalities.
Teens
Adam and his brother stopped talking because their fights were getting really bad. Carlos had a hard time accepting the truth, but Adam wasn't being treated well by John, almost to the point of bullying. They reconnected when Adam was 18.
Adam had two important romantic relationships: Analía, his childhood best friend who turned out to be a lesbian, and Olivia. The second relationship didn't last very long but its impact is huge in Adam's life, being the source of a lot of his insecurities and mistakes in his adult relationships. Needless to say, his mother didn't approve of Oli - Adam never went through a rebellious phase with his mom and he always took her advice to heart.
His mother died in an accident that Adam never opens up about. In fact, he hardly ever talks about his mom, not even happy memories. Losing her made him closer to his dad and they became close in their grief.
Adulthood
Since his mom died when he was 19, he didn't continue studying after highschool. He moved in with his dad and worked on and off for a while, caring for his niece during it. When he was 23 he moved out of his dad's house and into Margo's, who was dating Analía at the time.
Margo got him more into the community and introduced him to other queer people in her circle, so his social circle grew a lot during this time. At 25 he met Patrick and entered a 2.5 year long relationship. The first few months were rough, but they learnt to talk to each other and even got engaged, but Patrick decided to break up with Adam for his own good. Most of their friends agree that they brought out the worst in each other.
Adam used this relationship and his social circle to ignore his problems for a while, so when it was over, it really hit him. He had some really rough months while still living with Patrick and after a huge fight, Margo helped him find somewhere else to live. This is when he met Kiki, who basically got him a job and convinced him to finally go to therapy. When he was getting better, Adam started seeing other people casually again and really hit it off with Jay, Margo's best friend.
In present time, he's living with Jay and Terra, his niece, who he took in after her graduation.
relationships
i don't think i've ever loved anyone like i love jay. we bring out the best in each other and i like that he can give me space when i need it without coddling my avoidance.
i'm really proud of the person she's becoming. sometimes i can't believe i met her when she was just a few hours old.
i still love him, but there's nothing worse than two horrible people living together. if i could change the past, i would not've talked to him.
the very definition of kind. she pulled me out of the darkest time of my life. i'm glad we never formalized our relationship even if it hurt at the time.
A Feeling
Sea of dreams, Oberhofer
i'll take your word
like a good friend should
if the earth should dry,
may your dreams never die
