Tamara was born in a small city in Saskatchewan, Canada. She has two brothers, one brother six years older and the other two years younger. As a young child, Tamara spent a lot of time creating entertainment for herself. She was an energetic child who refused to sit still, constantly running and jumping. Because of this, she was signed up for a few different sports at the age of five before she discovered she loved swimming. When she turned seven, she was put in a speed swimming club. Although she was far from the best, she loved the activity. Tamara was outgoing as a child, but became more introverted around the age of ten. This didn't bother her though, as she found a group of new friends who stayed with her for the long haul. She began to write in her free time, mostly stories based on her friends and the role-playing games they made up. It was also around this time when she started mandatory band classes and learned to play the clarinet, an instrument she'd continue playing in band classes and eventually joining her university's concert band.

By the time Tamara and her friends began high school, she had become well established as someone who didn't conform to any cliques, so the new environment was a place Tamara highly anticipated attending so she could get away from the people who made her feel like a weirdo for not conforming to their ways. She gained a few friends who also felt like they didn't quite fit into any of the established cliques and her friend group became like a second family. She had a five-month relationship that started at the end of her grade nine year with a hyena she became close friends with after the breakup. A year after the breakup, Tamara began to question her sexuality, as she found she didn't seem to like anyone for a long time while her friends got in and out of relationships a few times already. For a short period, Tamara began to wonder if she was biromantic, but would not fully realize her sexuality until many years later. At the beginning of her grade twelve year, Tamara discovered what demiromance was and found herself extremely identifying with the label. She graduated later that year with an average mark almost near the 90%s and an acceptance letter to a university not far away from her hometown.

Tamara moved into a dormitory for her first year as a university student enroled in the English program, hoping to take several creative writing courses as well. Although the university was only a few hours away from her hometown and a few of her former classmates also attended there, Tamara found herself without any friends for a long time, her closest friends being back in her hometown. However, Tamara was not too bothered with this, as she was able to keep a close connection with her friends online and she didn't feel the need to have people physically around her all the time as she is an introvert. After a few weeks of having only acquaintances in her classes, she made a friend with a black panther in her Psychology 100 class named Cornelius. She began to make new friends again because of Cornelius's ambiverted nature