Oh I totally agree, as much as I like horror I really think spidey is at his best when it doesn't focus on that!! I think it's more interesting when it's not overly gritty and stuff haha. But yeah I totally agree that it's super interesting to see how Harry and Peter's relationship differs through each interpretation! I really liked their dynamic in the original movie trilogy, even though they totally broke my heart-- especially when Harry had amnesia temporarily or when he helped Peter during the final battle, it really showed that despite everything, he still cares a lot about his friends. I actually started a character analysis essay on him where I'll probably talk a lot about the different portrayals of his relationship with Peter! I just think their dynamic is super interesting. I also think the coffee bean gang friend group dynamic from the original comics was super cute! It's so sad that that idea was never shown in the movies at all :" 

I love aunt May too!! Honestly her relationship with Peter is so important imo so I love it when she gets more screen time or gets to have those kinds of conversations with him. Her scene with him in TASM2 specifically broke my heart honestly, even if that wasn't about him being spider-man haha. If you ever figure out which issue that was let me know because I'd love to read it!! I haven't started any of the shows yet tbh, I've just rewatched the movies about a million times haha, but I was thinking about starting with either Marvel's Spider-Man (partially because the Harry design in that one is super cute lol) or the Spectacular Spider-Man, but I think the really old cartoons would be a lot of fun to watch too!!