I've been meaning to post this for 3 weeks, but once my grandmom passed, that just took the energy I had for anything.

 

But some sudden news has come following her death, and while II feel like I'm a (bit) better, I can finally say what I've wanted to say.

 

I've been in this community for about a year now, actually maybe a year and a half, when I think about it. And I've meet some wonderful and lovely people here! In fact, I met two of my besties this way

 

However, two major factors are coming into play.

 

The first, and most important reason, is that I need to finally push off on my own.

 

With my grandmother passing, I now have to set my sights on finally getting my own place. It’s been a long time coming, anyway, but housing in my state is pretty damn expensive to begin with, so I’ve always thought I would have to take it slow. But now that my grandmom is gone, I don’t honestly have a place to live forever. Thanks to my family, they’re allowing me to stay in the house she had for awhile, but it won’t be forever, and I knew I couldn’t stay here forever anyway.

 

So, besides what I owe people, I must stop buying adopts. Even if it’s something I like, I refuse to buy anymore unless it’s really cheap or I MUST have it, and even then I need to put real life over fiction right now.

 

The second, not as important reason, is  I'm getting really tired of the mentality of some of the people here, and how they act.

I get that, it's impossible to expect a lot of people in a community to act reasonable and mature at all times. No matter what site or group of people you’re involved in, drama and shitty people are just gonna happen, you can’t stop it.

 

And maybe it’s because I haven’t been around for years and years like some people have.

 

But either way!

 

Why has it come to this, so much greed and selfishness all for adopts?

 

First off, I have seen SO SO many OCs getting passed around like champagne bottles. It’s really sad. And see, I wouldn’t have so much of a issue with it if people were so upfront about it. But the thing is, they’re not. They do this thing where they post the OC up and write in the bio “OOOHHH DREAMY BABY NEVER GIVING YOU UP! <3” and what do they do a day later?

 

“Uh I don’t like their colors hehe, so TRADE TIME POPULAR CLOSED SPECIES ONLY!”

 

Like jesus christ, don’t pretend. It’s obvious you were going to trade them from the start. I myself have bought OCs but have ALWAYS been upfront with the seller/trader about if I’m gonna swap them or etc. JUST. BE. HONEST. People are so damn pretentious and in the end, the OC isn’t respected as a OC anymore, it’s just a poker chip. And the worst part, that’s probably someone’s dream design but since people only see it like a money ticket, they’ll never have a chance to get it.

 

Another issue I’m starting to notice is that, if someone doesn’t have a lot of CS’s, people tend to...Ignore them? And make them feel isolated?

 

Like..What the fuck?

 

Why is it suddenly a thing to where “Oh if you don’t have $500 worth of closed species, then don’t even breathe in my direction”!? That’s ridiculous, shouldn’t people just you know, bond other a common interest and no money/quantity of adopt status?

 

And relating to that, I’ve seen so many friendships being tested/torn apart by these damn adopts. People have actually abandoned their friends over this! Isn’t that stupid? Giving up on a friend because of what they may or may not have? And also incidents of friends going behind other’s backs and trading off adopts without telling the other, when they had a ship with them or when they knew how much the friend wanted the OC.

 

It’s just really gross and it makes me feel ashamed to be a person L O L

 

And finally, people have, and WILL use you for a adopt. It’s pretty disgusting to use a person’s feelings to try to gain something from them. I’ve seen it happen, and it just really makes me question a lot of people on this site who dabble with adopts.

 

And if I'm gonna be honest, yeah I know I did a thing where I had no room to talk once: I once vouchered off a dreamy for more than it was worth. I didn't know I was doing something wrong, but I do see that now, and I plan to make things right by returning the portion of the money I owed to that person.

 

But yeah, I think this sums up my feelings.

 

(But as a note: if some of my followers worry I'm talking about them, please know I'm not saying this to insult those who DO trade their adopts. I trade my OCs I can't use, I'd be ridiculous of me to insult people for that! I have nothing against trading, it's just when it's done in the manner I described, it feels wrong to me. But those people are usually easy to tell the difference between, so please don't worry, mutuals!)

 

So, am I leaving for good?

 

Nope, I just need to go away from the business side of OCs, for my financial situation and for my mental well being.

 

Then what do you plan to do?

 

A few things are gonna happen:

 

 Purging - Already been doing this, but will be pushing more. And before anyone jumps on my ass, NO I do not PLAN to trade any of my dreamies because unlike some people I actually keep my adopts. (LMAO sorry for the salt) If I do plan to trade any of my dreamies, they'll most likely only go to my best friends, because I trust them to not trade them around. And if they end up not accepting any I give up, then maybe I'll make a post for my mutuals only. We'll see!

Hiatus on being a customer - AKA I'm not gonna be running around and buying a lot of adopts. If I do it's ONLY becasue I must for a story, but like I mentioned in the beginning of this post, I'm gonna be REALLY debating on it. 

Unfollowing spree - if I feel someone has been acting shady toward close friends when it comes to using them for their adopts, I will be unfollowing, but quietly. I don't plan to call-out anyone or PM them a bitching tirade about it, because there's no point. And I don't WANT to be a hateful person, I just want to surround myself with more trustworthy people.

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And this concludes the negative side of my giant update rant. Sometime tonight or tomorrow, I'll be posting on what I plan to do as I still say on TH as a active writer, storybuilder and OC designer!