Okay, I just want to say something to everyone
don't get angry at people who get upset about you not talking or initating things because let me fucking tell you
Online realtionships aren't the same as real life
and people are allowed to vent, people can vent online what they want to feel - don't take it damn personal if someone posts a vent
If it was about you, IT'D BE REALLY CLEAR TRUST ME if it was about you so don't take it personal that it's about you unless stated and bloody damn ask first why they feel that way
Instead of just judging them that they're too clingy or have no right to be upset over that stuff when in reality people DO have a right to be upset about it.
oNLINE IS A FREE OPEN SPACE
YOU CAN VENT IF YOU WANT TO, PEOPLE SHOULDN'T HAVE TO HIDE THEIR VENTS
IF IT MAKES YOU UNCOMFORTABLE
DON'T FUCKING LOOK, OKAY? DON'T YOU EVER DARE SAY AND TELL THEM THEY'RE WRONG FOR THEIR OWN FEELINGS THOUGH
NOBODY IS WRONG FOR HAVING FEELINGS
If you don't agree with them, don't just write them off as unreasonable because IT COULD BE ABOUT ONE PERSON AND NOT EVERYONE THEY FEEL THAT WAY WITH.
People need to stop taking shit so literal
It's the 21st century you guys, cut it out now.
I mean fucking can't tell me YOU never got pissed if you don't hear from someone in 5 months? Yeah, so don't sit there and judge someone else for soemething YOU most likely do too
Just because they're brave enough to approach about it and ask unlike you, it doesn't mean to take them down as being unreasonabe when really people vent this way for a reason
People want to have to feel ackolwedged
REAL friendships online, they talk - not constantly okay I mean everyone has lifes, I DO TOO YOU KNOW DAMN
but they still TRY and put effort towards a friendship
THey don't just blow people off.
Sure, some people are okay with not talking only a couple times BUT THAT DOESN'T MEAN ITS OKAY
AND THAT DOESN'T MEAN ITS RIGHT
BECAUSE NEWS FLASH
REAL FRIENDSHIPS, THEY WANT TO TALK TO YOU MORE
IT MEANS YOU'RE BEING USED IF THEY DON'T TALK TO YOU ALL THE TIME
OR AT LEAST THAT'S THE VIBE YOU GIVE OFF
SO
DON'T GET PISSY AT SOMEONE WHO IS UPSET ABOUT SOMETHING THEY FEEL YOU DID. YOU NEED TO CONFRONT THE PROBLEM, NOT JUST BLAME THEM AS BEING UNREASONABLE.
And everyone, please change your views about people getting upset if you don't talk to them. It doesn't mean they're guilt tripping you to talk to them all the time, not everyone is like that. Not everyone means they want you to HAVE to talk to them all the time, okay? FUCKING GOT IT
OKAY
//I'M OUT
can't clap emoji because i'm actually on a PC
you're the third person in as many days who had a similar vent (although one of them was "hey if i don't speak to you in 48 hours, don't get on my case because that makes me not want to talk to you")
but seriously though, i feel it's really immature to... devalue people's vents?
like, if you don't like the content, don't read it (like i do!) or stop following a person if all you're seeing is venting.
6 years, 2 months ago
XD YES! EXACTLY THANK YOU SO MUCH
That's exactly my point, you don't like it? unfollow them if they post nothing but vents but don't sit there and judge someone for their own vents and if you don't agree, sure you can not agree
everyone is allowed their own opinion but don't tell them they're wrong for it
explain why, not just out them
And yeah, I agree 48 hours is unreasonable BUT if it's been alMOST TWO WEEKS OR TWO DAMN MONTHS
It's not being unreasonable like damn
People need to stop thinking that's what people mean when they finally confront them about it like no most people confront them in a decent amount of time, I don't care if it's been almost a week if I know you're busy, or heck even a longer time
you know
but when yOU AREN'T BUSY and just talking to everyone else but THAT person THAT is ignoring someone and just UGH, you can't call someone a friend or lead them on if you don't even bother to initate with them at least more then 3 times even if they don't think it is, because you know what you make the person not want to talk to YOU by doing that, not the other way around /flips shit.
6 years, 2 months ago Edited 7:51 am
that's why i try to let people know if i'm gonna be away (if i know) or i apologize after an extended absence.
sometimes i admit i do answer some people, but it's normally people who i *know* start to worry if they don't hear from me within X hours (lord, i had someone who i talk to on discord honestly worried for my health because i didn't respond to a cat meme within 4 hrs and i spent the better part of yesterday letting them know i'm fine, i had turned off notifications and then took longer because i kinda got electrocuted so i was still overly charged and i didn't want to shock my phone)
6 years, 2 months ago
Same here, I do the same- I always try to let people know too.
Because people just get angry at the person for confronting them about it bUT LIKE IF YOU NEVER SAID ANYTHING THAT YOU AREN'T OR LET THEM KNOW
What else is that person suppose to think?? you know? If you don't tell someone that its because you are busy and not just ignoring them, not everyone can assume that you aren't if you don't say anything. Espec if you are active online still but just don't say anything to them, it makes that person feel like absloute shit.
I had someone tell me recently, which I could agree with them that there are some people who are there for you even if you don't talk a lot all the time but for me it isn't the same
because if they don't talk a lot to me, it just makes me feel like I'm being used then only to vent or something or that I'd be using them if they don't talk often
I don't think people should have to talk everyday, nothing like that or anything but I think for a friendship it really needs more then 3 times in a month. It's just my personal opinion, unless you get to talk all day during those times like longer then an hour I can maybe see it? but otherwise, yeah I feel you just need more then a few times to be friends. But maybe its just because too that I've never had anyone see me as a friend even if we don't talk much and it's why I feel that way.
I feel people think too much these days that after you exchange contact information, that's all you need to do and leave it at that
and don't need to say anything bc they expect everyone to be okay but not everyone is the same
I get anexity and things like that too BUT if you're trying to make ONLINE FRIENDSHIPS, you really need to put in more effort or at least let them know that you have that and are shy or someTHING so they know they're not just being ignored, otherwise you'll make YOURSELF look bad
I know not everyone has to explain themselfs too but at the same time, it's just nice to know you put that effort towards letting them know? And makes them feel closer, not a have to but if you really want more online friendships then you really need to be more considerate of the other person too since as I said, online is not the same as real where it can be okay bc you can meet them anytime
online you have to just trust the person and yeah, I just hope people stop doing these bad things xD
And oh wow;u;; that is a bit much, yeah dang xD
I hope that got settled;w;;
6 years, 2 months ago Edited 8:31 am
oh yeah it got settled xD
(i do not suggest getting electrocuted though it's no fun)
personally? so long as i talk once a month with friends, even if for a little bit, i think we're still good friends -- hell, the friends i have offline i hardly talk to face to face because we're always busy e3e
but you're right, it depends from person to person -- you can think you're good friends only talking every so often but the other party might not, and one sided friendship can be... unfulfilling sometimes? so it's always good to just... ask the other party, and then try to find the perfect balance between active enough and "able to run away because anxiety or the like when you need to"
6 years, 2 months ago
;u; I would think that would not be fun, yeah
be careful, feather XD
and yeah, some people i am okay with that too if I know they're geniuley busy but when I know they're not and just talking to only people they want, it makes me so mad. I mean I know people are more comfortable with cetain people too, but still like if you are planning to make more friends, don't just string them along. You need effort like you put in the others too.
And, exactlyyy, yess, agree 100% ;w; that's what I'm honestly going to try to do too from now on and hope people will learn too and not just get upset if someone suddenly decides they don't want to be friends with someone over that too, I mean, people want different things in friendships and should just stop getting angry at people for what they want or how they feel, it's like the 21st century we should be better then this by now xD
6 years, 2 months ago Edited 8:37 am